Updated: Apr 6, 2020
Lately I have been in a lot of rings. A lot of fights where I am really assessing what “winning” means to me. And what I want to teach my boys. Is it only winning if the other person LOSES? And loses what. Loses face? Loses money, loses the game, loses the face off? Is their loss is so much more important than the fact I worked so hard to get there, make that team, earn that right? That I only WIN if they feel weak and I feel strong? And is that actually the “respect” I want? I want the win to be real, to feel good and to be deserved. That I was gracious and earned that right.
What about if me winning is how I define it. In the end I will be the bigger person.
In the end I will be the bigger person. I will try my best to understand where people are coming from and where their hurts are. For those I love I will try to work with them on it. I will meet halfway, I will show them how I am good at doing that and maybe they will want to do that too. To maybe be open to winning in their own way too.
I have promised myself that I will no longer be taken advantage of, taken for granted. To not do things for people out of fear of feeling inadequate. I will speak up and not be scared to use my voice. I can do the Barbie thing and still not be treated like a nobody.. that I matter, my voice matters and and my opinions matter. And that will make me proud. Proud of myself. Because what's more of win than that.
Make yourself proud. Much love Xo.
Barbie Wharton is a writer, speaker, mompreneur and Bell’s Palsy survivor. Life is better together. And in the sun. Runs Wharton Event Management with her mom, sister and most unreal team ever. Events where dancers feel like they belong. Find her on Facebook, Instagram and Linked In Podcast Guests profile here